Quit with All Your Lies: The Judgement Problem

This is the fourth post in the series. If you have missed one so far, scroll to the bottom of this post to check the others out.

Because of a post that I wrote about the lies we tell ourselves, I was inspired to break things down and address each of these excuses one by one. The next lie that I hear from a lot of people is:

There’s nothing wrong with me – YOU are just judgmental.

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(Sorry – had to giggle at that one.)

Why in the world does what I have to say bother you SO much? I am just a nutrition coach who is trying to be helpful and serve her market the most effective way I know how. I make suggestions to help others and it is up to that person to take it or leave it. If they do not take my suggestion, I will never flip out about it – just move on to the next person. I am fine either way.

The thing is – if you get upset by a simple suggestion, then that is on YOU, my friend.

But again, why does it bother you so much?

  • Did my comment make you uncomfortable?
  • Did my comment “trigger” something in you that you have been feeling for a while?
  • Did my comment make you think that if I am suggesting this, that other folks may be thinking this about you?
  • Did my comment force you to draw a line in the sand?

It is important that we never allow the suggestions and critiques of others to make us feel inadequate.

How will you be able to overcome feeling judged by others? Well, the primary thing is to have confidence in yourself. If you don’t, everything that everyone says to you will flick a switch inside and you’ll get angry for no reason whatsoever. The next thing to do is to see suggestions for what they truly are – SUGGESTIONS. It is your decision whether you take what is being shared with you and put it to use in your life, or whether you smile and keep on walking. How many times have our own parents made suggestions that we thought were totally off? What did we do for that situation? I would bet that 99% of the time, we would smile and nod and do our own thing. Last, if the suggestion does trigger something that you have been feeling, then take heed of those feelings and work on that area. Honestly, what someone has suggested to help you might be the very thing you need to help you overcome a weight plateau you have been hiding, or the advice you need to jump start your new healthy life.

The truth can definitely hurt, but it doesn’t have to hurt for long. Listen and choose what is best for you.

If you missed a post in this series, visit the links below:

Quit With All Your Lies (Time)

Quit With All Your Lies (Pleasing Others)

Quit With All Your Lies (Angry Family)

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